Tony A. Smith

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Broken Communication

Broken Cell Phone

If you have an argument with your spouse or friend probably the best thing you can do to get back at them for how they treated you or mistreated you is to not talk about the issue and give them the old silent treatment. The silent treatment seems to really get them where it hurts doesn’t it? You are in charge of when and if you will ever talk to them again and you are controlling them instead of them trying to control you.  The communication between you is broken for good and there is no way that it can be repaired if it is as bad as the cell phone in the picture above that has been smashed by a car.  Wouldn’t you agree that there is really no chance for the lines of communication to be opened back up if it’s as bad as this?  The best thing to do is to carry the troubles to bed with you, turn away from your spouse and just stare at the wall until you go to sleep in silence.

I hope you know that I am not serious.  My wife and I have been married for the past 33 years and I can assure you that using the old “silent” treatment routine does not work and ends up only harming you and your spouse/friend. We don’t usually have many disagreements now, but when we do we are quick to apologize to each other.  I can’t stand going to sleep if we are still in a scrapping mode and I know she can’t either.  Sometimes she apologizes first and sometimes I do.  I think the biggest thing that gets in the way is pride.  The longer we have been married, the more we have learned to put each other above our own interests.  We are now able to love each other more since we buried that old nasty pride in the grave.





  1. jjspina says:

    That is nice! I totally agree. Never go to bed angry! It is not good for one’s health. Blessings to you both!

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  2. tabitha59reachingout says:

    How very true! I am sure we can all relate. Good post, Tony. 🙂

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  3. milliethom says:

    I couldn’t agree more with everything you say here, Tony. My husband and I have been married for 45 years, and, like you, have long known that the silent treatment only results in breaking down communications still further. And going to sleep while still in ‘scrapping mode’ will result in a sleepless night. Pride so often gets in the way of an apology, so we just have to learn to swallow it.

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  4. Yes – absolutely Millie! Blessings to you my friend.


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