Tony A. Smith

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Our only daughter has found the man of her dreams and will soon be getting married. She is our only child and my wife and I have been a little down these past few days.  The happiness she has comes with a few mixed emotions I am sure that every dad feels when his daughter gets married.

On the one hand I am extremely happy for her and I know that she will have a great new life with the man she has chosen to start her new life with.  On the other hand, it feels like I am losing her forever.  I suppose I should look at it as gaining a son-in law as opposed to losing a daughter. It is just very hard when you are as close as we are.

The last few days random thoughts have popped in my head of her growing up.  Thoughts of bringing her home from the hospital on that first day and trying to grasp that I really was a dad and had been blessed with an awesome responsibility of raising a little girl. What would I do? I had never been a dad before.  All I knew is that I wanted the very best for her life and that I would do anything for her. I find myself laying in bed in the early hours of the morning and thinking back to all the good times and moments we had together.

Sure there were struggles and difficulties along the way, but every step of the way I would not trade for anything in the world as they say. It was during those struggles that I learned how to be a better dad I think.  I admit I did make a few mistakes and I wish I could have a do over on a few things, but I suppose that is just not possible now.

I just hope that in a few weeks when I walk her down the aisle for the last time before she takes her vows that I will be able to keep it all together. I am not sure what I will do when I see her in her wedding dress for the first time.  I am so very happy for her and I know GOD has great things in store for her and my new son-in law together.  I guess the end will be a new beginning for all of us now.

Isn’t that how life goes though? Our children are born to grow up and one day get married and start their own families in the circle of life.  I will always remember the times we had together my sweet daughter and I will be praying for you every single day. I love you with all of my heart my precious daughter!


  1. This is so beautiful, I hope she will read it

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  2. Debbie says:

    Congratulations, Tony! I am sure you will always be close in heart to her if not in proximity. I am happy for you all. Just wait until the grandchildren come. It gets so VERY much better. 🙂

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  3. I think my (single) mother was devastated when I married – though she held it together admirably on the wedding day she fell apart the following week! But the joy I see her grandchildren give her I’m sure has made it worth it 100 times over. God willing it be the same for you and your wife!

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  4. milliethom says:

    Your post is so beautiful, Tony. It’s only natural for you to have mixed emotions right now. You will miss your daughter like mad but you also know that she is happy and moving on in her life in a way that is natural and right. I have six, well grown up children and still suffer from ’empty nest syndrome’. But I’m still happy that they are all happy! I’m sure the wedding day will be magic. 🙂

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  5. SilverGirl says:

    My son got married last year – so I understand how you feel. We do the very best we are capable of at the time as parents and then we set them free.
    The years you have them as children go by so fast,.. well in retrospect.. :o)
    I guess it’s your time to really live Tony, follow some of your dreams..
    That’s what I intend to do..

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  6. thehutowner says:

    Congratulations for gaining an in-law and in a year you’ll gain a grand child…that’s life, a merry-go-round. Congrats to your one and only daughter…

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  7. sumaia1994 says:

    Awww! I absolutely loved this blogpost. Congratulations 🙂

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  8. Congratulations! Beautiful thoughts about raising your daughter.

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